Personality Structures
Healing Personality Patterns Through Nervous System Repair & Relational Safety
What We Explore:
Personality is often described as “who we are within a diagnosis,”—but in therapy, we look at it as who we had to become to feel safe, accepted, or loved.
Many of us develop protective ways of thinking, feeling, and relating early on, especially if we grew up in environments that were critical, chaotic, emotionally immature, or conditional. Over time, these strategies can harden into patterns: perfectionism, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, control, shutdown, or chronic self-doubt.
While these structures may have helped you survive, they can also create loneliness, inner conflict, and harm in your relationships.
Therapy is a space to:
• Understand how personality patterns form through early attachment and emotional experience
• Use the Enneagram to explore your core fears, protectors, and growth edges
• Meet inner parts that carry roles like “the achiever,” “the caretaker,” “the controller,” or “the one who disappears”
• Build a more compassionate relationship with your inner world
• Repair relational patterns that cause disconnection or harm
• Create more room for flexibility, authenticity, and real connection
This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about softening the armor you’ve worn for too long—and learning that you don’t have to earn your belonging by performing, protecting, or perfecting.
Who This Therapy Support:
This work is for folks who feel like they’re constantly managing themselves—always anticipating, overthinking, caretaking, or striving. You may have been told you’re “too much” or “too sensitive,” or that your reactions are confusing to others—even when they feel so real to you.
Many of the clients I work with have been labeled with personality disorders, relate to complex trauma, or identify deeply with Enneagram types like 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, or 8—each of which holds its own survival wisdom and pain. Whether you struggle with control, emotional reactivity, over-functioning, or fear of abandonment, we’ll explore how those parts of you were formed—and how they can begin to loosen their grip.
Together, with parts work and Enneagram-guided self-inquiry, we’ll work toward a version of you that feels more whole, integrated, and free to relate from a place of trust, not defense.
Work With Me
Reflect, Integrate, and Redefine
A one-on-one space to explore your identity, untangle internalized beliefs, and step into your most aligned self. Individual therapy with me is rooted in the deeply personal process of self-reclamation, where we work to unlearn and create space for authenticity. This is a space where you don’t have to perform or explain yourself—you get to be fully seen.
Family therapy isn’t about fixing one person—it’s about creating a home environment where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. Working with me is especially supportive for neurodivergent families, multicultural families, queer families, and those healing from emotionally immature generational patterns.
Love does not have to look ONE way to be real, fulfilling, or meaningful. Traditional relationship models often don’t account for neurodivergence, non-monogamy, kink, or other nontraditional partnerships. Build relationships that work for you, rather than forcing them into predefined structures. I offer a judgment-free space to create intimacy on your own terms.
For those who heal best in the community, integration groups provide a space to process in a supportive environment. These groups are not just about sharing experiences —they are about deep, collective witnessing and transformation. These groups are closed, process-oriented, and rooted in deep conversation, reflection, and ritual.